I have been away for a while. As usual I tried to put too much pressure on myself with my blogging venture when I started out towards the end of last year, and as usual I crashed and burned…will I ever learn?!
This week has been one for reflection – following attending an event which I will go on to talk about shortly – and I have come to realise that I wasn’t being completely true to myself with the posts I was writing. I re-read my “welcome” post and there I wrote:
“This blog is centred around my current journey, wherein I am becoming more self aware, healing from within, learning to show myself unconditional love, and manifesting my wildest dreams.”
And not a single one of my posts that followed were about any of that. Once again I was trying to fit into a mould, to fit into the blogging world and create posts similar to what everyone else was posting about. I think I was still holding on to that fear of what readers would think about what I have to say, especially considering I went public with the fact that I was blogging, and so it wasn’t always going to be total strangers reading, but also friends and family who I see regularly. And I found myself posting about things that didn’t truly interest me, and I wasn’t writing freely and flowingly (is that a word?) which is how I love to write.
So I hereby promise to all of you who are reading, and to myself, that from now on I will be true to myself in my writing and my posts.
NOW, on to the subject matter at hand – The Self Love Summit!
So I have struggled all week to clearly put in to words just how incredible this event was. So I’m just going to tell you all what the day consisted of, and let you imagine how amazing it was for yourselves.
This was the very first event of its kind, hosted by the absolute QUEEN Melissa Wells (Mel Wells) – bestselling author of ‘The Goddess Revolution’, and most recently ‘Hungry for More’. You can probably tell by the titles of her books just what sort of stuff she is about! She refers to us as goddesses – therefore I will be doing the same…because you my darling are a GODDESS and you deserve to feel like one every damn day!!
400 goddesses gathered in the venue in Canary Wharf in London for an entire day dedicated to loving ourselves just as we are – I’m sorry but is there any better way to spend a Saturday?!
The event began with Mel herself, and also the sassiest of women ever to walk this earth, Zoe McNulty of ‘School of Strut’ completely owning the stage with a strutology routine to “Woman” by Kesha. This totally set the tone for the day and put us all in a sassy mood. It created the atmosphere of fun, positivity, love (so much love!) and sass that was to be built upon over the course of the day.
Mel was the first person to speak. For anybody who doesn’t know, Mel is a certified health coach, eating psychology coach, international speaker and bestselling author of her two books. She is dedicated to helping women ditch dieting for good, make peace with food and love their bodies. She gets you thinking about your relationship with food, and how it mirrors the relationship you have with yourself, and even how these relationships are impacted by elements of fulfilment in your life i.e. career, environment, friendships & other relationships, creativity, spirituality. I have learnt SO much about myself since starting my work with Mel almost a year ago. So she started by asking us to think of three things we love about ourselves, and at regular intervals during the day we were prompted by her asking “Do you love yourself?” which was our cue to get up and shake our booty to the chorus of “Love Yourself” by Hailee Steinfeld, followed by us proclaiming the three things we love about ourselves, example: “I am Lauren, I am strong, I am passionate, I am kind”. Mel also recited a quote by Marianne Williamson which, in my opinion, is the quote to live by:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of god. Your playing small does not serve the world.”
The next speaker to follow was Shannon Kaiser – author of “The Self Love Experiment”, “Adventures for your Soul”, and “Find your Happy”. I have to admit I didn’t really know much about Shannon as a person prior to this event, nor had I read any of her books, but WOW! I can’t believe how much her story resonated with me on such a deep level. She went through her five principles to turn self-doubt into self-love:
- You get what you focus on
- All problems are pathways
- We learn the way, on the way
- The more you, you show, the more your life will flow
- Self love is not about how you look, it’s about how you live
It’s safe to say I have further expanded my self love library and have bought her book “The Self Love Experiment” to read!!
Next, Mel asked us to make a list of as many things we could think of that we love about ourselves – we did a lot of listing throughout the day, and the further we got into the day, the bigger the lists got!
The third speaker was the beautiful Rebecca Campbell – author of “Light is the new Black” and “Rise Sister Rise”. Rebecca was a breath of fresh air that cut through the white noise that is life. She spoke about our life’s paths and how the path is spiral, not linear, and that there is no end destination to get to. She took time to remind us to breathe regularly, as too often we hold our breath. She helped us to feel the energy in the room, and to also project our own energy. And she finished by leading us in a beautiful chant of “Heaven, Heart, Earth, Heart” which we did to the track “Warrior” by Aurora, which encouraged us to re-connect with heaven and earth. I’m almost certain that it was that chanting that created the bond in that room which will forever be unbreakable.
(Bry Penney Photography)
The next speaker was the lovely Suzy Ashworth – Author of “The Calm Birth Method”. Suzy is a mindset and business coach primarily, but she’s also the founder of “The Calm Birth School” which is a video based hypnobirthing program, so this woman is literally like my spirit animal because this is something like one of the dreams I am manifesting for myself – notice how I said “one of the”, because another thing this wonderful woman has taught me is that we can have multiple dreams, multiple passions, and we can achieve them all!!! Suzy is somebody I 100% want to work with in the future when it comes to building my business. Anyway, back to her talk, this is the first time I’ve seen her speak and she had me in stitches!!! Although she is talking about serious shit, she definitely has the comedy thing going for her! Suzy talked about a metaphorical tunnel of self-loathing presenting itself in her life and how she manages to pull herself out of it by stopping, and breathing, and remembering her miracle formula “Faith + Action = Miracles”. And this is essentially what I took away from her talk, because I too have a metaphorical deep dark tunnel of self-loathing and I could definitely do with more of the stopping and breathing.
After this, Mel had us listing everything in our lives that we are thankful for. It’s so good to practice gratitude on a daily basis! Which leads me on to the last speaker before we broke for lunch…
Julie Montagu – author of “Recharge”. Julie highlighted to us just how important it is to carve out at least 10 minutes each day for some self care i.e. breathing, meditation, journaling, or anything else which gives you head space! She says “self care is the foundation to build your life upon”, she strongly feels that without regular self care we will burn out trying to cope with the demands of everyday life. And I have to say, I agree! How many times do we have to crash and burn before we realise that we need to take care of ourselves?! It’s not selfish, it’s not greedy, it’s necessary. Julie also talked about creating your dream life and put it into perspective with this one statistic…
“You have a 1 in 4 million chance of being born”
You were born for a reason! Don’t waste your life – do what you love, even if that means a change!
After lunch, we came back and the SASS QUEEN, Zoe McNulty was back. This time, she was teaching US a routine!! We did a routine to “Ain’t your Mama” by JLo. This was definitely one of my favourite parts of the day – Zoe is a self love activist and is passionate about giving women the confidence to feel sexy at any shape or size. And boy did she deliver!! We felt like badass sexy, sassy goddesses and like we were fucking unstoppable (which we are!) I’ve even booked to go to Zoe’s “Strut Summit” in October because I need more of that in my life for sure!!
Next, Mel had us thinking about what we loved to do as a child and why we stopped doing what we loved. She also had us make a list of 10 things that we would love to do with our lives if there were no restrictions at all – because newsflash, it’s all possible! And I realised that there is SO MUCH that I want to do with my life. I already knew this, but writing it down on paper just confirms it. We shared our lists with each other and I even saw “Midwife” on somebody’s list (which, if you don’t know, is my actual job) and I want to tell whoever that was that it is freakin’ possible!!!
Next up was the gorgeous Persia Lawson – author of “The Inner Fix”. Persia is a love and dating expert and coach, and just a gorgeous human being inside and out – I had the pleasure of getting to know her a bit better later on in the evening as I had upgraded to a VIP ticket to the event which allowed me into a private Q+A with all of the speakers and then a private meal and drinks at a swanky London restaurant with Mel, Persia and Zoe. Persia’s mantra “Surrender to the festival and let her take you wherever she wants to take you” touched a lot of us at the summit, she uses “festival” but this also means “life” – I take this to mean that everything will be okay, whatever happens, but let it happen! Persia also talked about music and how it impacts on life and the world we live in. This resonated with me as I have always felt that I connect with music, or music connects with me. Another quote that she spoke of is:
“Don’t die with your music still in you” – Dr Wayne Dyer
The last speaker of the day was the one and only Megan Crabbe, also known as @bodyposipanda on IG – body positive activist, feminist, and owner of the coolest hair in the world!! She’s also the author of “Body Positive Power”. Megan spoke about the history of diet culture and the damaging effects that the media can have on young impressionable people in terms of developing eating disorders and the warped idea that our bodies aren’t worthy of love. She also talks about “Health at every size” and that physical health is just ONE of the EIGHT (I think!) aspects of health there are. This girl knows her shit!!
Lastly, Mel finalised the event by talking about the creativity in our lives and why the hell are we not doing it!! What is holding us back? She had us thinking about what the next level in our lives looks like and what are the negative implications of getting there (because this is often the fear which holds us back) And then she asked us to make a list of all the things that we choose to believe…this was the easiest list of all I’m sure because this event had me feeling well and truly inspired. I left feeling like I was capable of anything, and that I was ready to take on and conquer the world! I had hugged many many goddesses, cried, laughed, danced, sang, journalled, and had many a lightbulb moment!!
It was an absolute pleasure to meet these women for the private Q+A and then go for a goddess-y meal, drinks and mingle in the evening. I totally fan-girled over Mel – I’ve been following her for a year, I’ve read her books and I’m in her Academy (her online program), and she is just the most beautiful kind-hearted woman ever – in fact they all are!! I made friends for life at this event – I am actually not very good at all at making new friends, but these women were just the easiest women to make friends with – because there was absolutely no judgement, no expectation to conform or fit a mould, we loved on each other for being exactly who we are…and that is such a beautiful thing!!
The Summit was such a success, that only 2 days later Mel announced a date for the Self Love Summit 2019…and I have already bought my ticket!!